A PWC colleague commented on my previous Ramblings 5 post about silence.
I think it got a little off topic though I can get the confusion.
Here's some parameters. Lets say that both people in the room are comfortable with silence. Comfortable with it alone and comfortable with it in a crowd (noisy or quiet).
So have let's say you are one of these people, have you ever felt that faint pressure that someone wants your attention, felt that faint tension, had a niggling feeling that someone just spoke to you?
Have you ever had that where you go "Did you say something?" When in fact it was all silence.
What if someone did say something, but not verbally.
They have conducted experiments where they have a person face a wall and have people sit behind him. They then direct the people to focus or not focus on the person in front of them.
More than chance, the person sitting facing the wall can guess that someone is focusing on him/her and not only that some of them can give the position of the person.
So maybe, that pressure you feel in the room that tension is when two people wish to communicate, are trying desperately to do so without words...
And what about when you are with someone you know well and can finish their sentence or know what they will say before they say it?
Of course you could say these are all from non-verbal cues, or previous conversations. But what if it isn't?
How about those times when you pick up to call a friend just to have your phone ring and it be your friend. And let's say that is a friend you haven't spoken to in weeks, months or even years?
Maybe we just are that connected... or maybe it's coincidence.
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